I grew up without a dad. My mom raised my brother and I single-handedly. And while she did all she could do and then some, I feel like I missed out on some things by not having a strong male influence in my life. I believe it affected me most in internal ways. Self-worth. Inner-strength. Self-esteem. They all suffered tremendously.
I have a good friend who grew up with a stellar dad. One of those dads who championed everything his little girl did. And I always just stared in awe at their relationship. How amazing must it have been to have a big, strong daddy who always had your back? I can only imagine.
But as bad as it was for me, I always felt terrible for my brother. There was no one there to teach him how to shave. Or tie a tie. No one to teach him the “manly” things. He grew up in a house full of girls.
So when one of my Peeps posted a YouTube channel called Dad, How Do I? my heart melted. On his channel Rob Kenney teaches kids how to do a bunch of typical “dad” things like how to change a tire and how to iron a dress shirt. (Of course any parent can teach these things, but some, like shaving your face, tend to be things men know a bit more about. Although I can pluck a mean chin hair if you want a tutorial on that!) Rob’s dad walked out on him when he was 12-years-old, and his channel is a small way to look out for other kids who share his unfortunate fate. Like me.
So from all of the fatherless kids out there, I want to say thank you, Rob. Thank you for being the dad we all need. And if you could do a tutorial on how to have self-esteem even when you didn’t have a dad telling you how awesome you were as a kid, I’d love that.