Have you heard the news? Blake Lively is a mom! She had her bouncing bundle of pooping joy in December, but just gave her first interview about motherhood to People Magazine this week. She said it’s the happiest time of her life. I love that. And that she’s looking forward to having more babies. Fabulous! But then she said – “I don’t feel like it’s a massive change.”
My life went from being about me, to being about my baby.
My days went from doing what I wanted to do, to doing what my child needed me to do.
My nights went from long, sleep-filled hours to endless hours awake.
My bowel movements went from private affairs to spectator sports.
My boobs went from perky orbs to saggy pendulums.
My relationship went from “I love you” to “Hey you, hand me that diaper.”
My work went from being my life to a side gig I fit around my kid.
My house went from being a relatively neat, contained place to a HAZMAT zone.
My heart went from being inside my chest, to zooming down a slide at 40 miles per hour.
My world went from being mine, to being ours.
IS ALL THAT NOT A MASSIVE CHANGE?
I’m sorry Blake, I love ya and I really hate to call people out, but are you maybe still cruising on the endorphins from giving birth? Did they forget to remove your epidural? Or possibly you’re in denial? Or maybe you’ve outsourced your baby to the nanny so that she’s not a “massive change” in your life. Or possibly you’re the kind of woman to whom motherhood comes naturally. The kind of woman who handles motherhood like an earth mama goddess; unlike me who was sideswiped by the whole experience. Because for me, motherhood changed everything. And I mean, EVERYTHING.
I wish celebrities would admit that parenting is hard. Every article I read gushes on and on about how amazing and easy and seamless it is. They never seem to admit the truth. That while becoming a mom is AMAZING, it’s also incredibly hard. And it changes your life. Massively.