A year ago I made my Let It Go – Mom Parody. When I heard the original song, it resonated with me on a pretty deep level. Yes, I just said a Disney song resonated with me on a deep level. I’m officially a mom.
I’ve always been really hard on myself. A perfectionist who expected the best of herself. Always. So when I became a mother and found that I couldn’t do everything—or really anything—perfectly, it was a huge thing for me. I felt like a failure. Why couldn’t I do this thing—this thing that is the most natural thing in the world—perfectly? Why couldn’t I do it perfectly like everyone else could? Or like everyone else pretended they could??? I beat myself up for years for having a messy house and not finding the time to shower. I blamed myself for my daughter’s health issues and her lack of sleep. I cursed myself for not being able to gracefully balance work and parenting and marriage and LIFE.
But as the years dragged on, I learned to let it go. I learned not to beat myself up for my messy house. I mean, I spend 80% of my time wandering after my kids picking up, how much can a mama do? I learned not to blame myself for ALL of my kids’ problems. Some things are what they are and weren’t “caused” by my mothering. I learned to be kind to myself and not rail on myself for my changed body and my saggy boobs. It was a slow process, and I’m still far from perfect at accepting my imperfections, but I’m getting better.
Letting it go is such an incredible—and incredibly difficult—thing to do. But it’s incredibly important. So to all you mamas out there, I want to say, “Let it go! Let it go!” You’re imperfect. I’m imperfect. And that is perfect.