I came across her statement in my Facebook feed. I clicked. And read. And couldn’t stop reading. Her words seared my soul. You must read them.
The victim went to a party at Stanford University with her younger sister. She had too much to drink and was sexually assaulted by a Freshman named Brock Allen Turner. He left her limp, unconscious body splayed out behind a dumpster when he was chased off by two grad students.
They caught him. He was tried. Convicted. And then sentenced to a pathetic six months in jail. Six months.
And the internet exploded in outrage. And so did I.
Brock Allen Turner hasn’t been very apologetic about what happened. He doesn’t seem remorseful. He just doesn’t seem to get it. He’s been blaming alcohol for a “promiscuous” night. I got news for you, Brock. Dragging a passed out girl’s body behind a dumpster and sexually assaulting her is not a “promiscuous night.” It’s a crime.
At first I wondered how he could be so clueless. Daft? Evil? How could this idiot not know the difference between a promiscuous night and rape? But now I realize where he got it from … his father.
In a statement before the court Brock’s father bemoaned the fact that the “event” of that night has forever altered his son’s life. He talked about how his son doesn’t want to eat ribeye steak anymore. The poor kid has lost his appetite. Awwwwww. His once promising swimming career looks like it might be over. Awwwwww.
“His life will never be the one that he dreamed about and worked so hard to achieve,” Brock’s dad said. “That is a steep price to pay for 20 minutes of action out of his 20 plus years of life.”
Twenty minutes of “action”????? Is this guy kidding me? Yes, if you, let’s say, commit murder and it takes you 20 minutes, your life will be forever changed. But you know whose life will be changed MORE????? The person you killed. Or in this case, sexually assaulted.
The victim’s life has been forever changed. Because of what Brock did. Yes, perhaps Brock‘s life has been forever changed as well. But it’s because of what he did! WHAT HE DID! He is the reason his life is forever altered. He committed a crime. And when you commit a crime, when you assault someone else, yes, you change the course of your life.
Where is the accountability in all this?
I can’t help but think this culture of fixing everything for our children—of running behind them and cleaning up their messes; of threatening teachers who give our children low grades; of excusing them and never holding them accountable has somehow contributed to this.
Don’t worry, Brock. You can rape a girl behind a dumpster and daddy will be right behind you cleaning up your mess. You won’t have to face the consequences. I’ll hire a big-shot lawyer and fix it all up for you.
What kind of monsters are we creating?
So yes, I blame Brock Allen Turner for what he did. But I also blame his father for fixing it for him. For not holding him accountable. And for teaching him that he can do anything—even rape someone—and not be held responsible.
Mr. Turner, your son sexually assaulted an unconscious girl behind a dumpster. So yes, he changed the course of his life. But he is not the victim here. He deserves to be punished.
End of story.